Actual Useful Baby Tips to Remember

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I know everyone has advice on babies which don’t always work. This is me writing a reminder to me. A lot of my friends have recently just had their first kiddo as well and I tried to write these down when they were still fresh in my mind. Feel free to utilize the pieces you want.

Everyone has these vague things of advice during labor and after. Some things I was never told. Like when you’re going stir crazy at the end of your pregnancy, set up stuff for you! Set up a nursing station, at least two one upstairs and downstairs. You won’t be able to bend over or bend down for a while. Make sure your bathroom is set up where you don’t have to lean over or bend down to get anything. Stock up on pads, heavy ones. Coconut oil is your best friend. Slather up your lady bits if you can as soon as possible after birth and continue doing so.

Everyone talked to me about the scary dreaded first poo after labor. I took Calcium and Magnesium right after labor and I’ll tell you it wasn’t the terrifying horror that everyone talks about. Magnesium is a bit of a laxative and calcium should be taken as well for Mags best benefit. Keep up on those two vitamins at the end of pregnancy and after. (Obviously I’m not a doctor so seek professional advice before you take anything.)

Don’t buy anything but zip up sleepers. SERIOUSLY PLEASE LISTEN TO THIS FOR THE LOVE OF GOD. When you’re learning how to change a diaper on a newborn the endless 39 bazillion snaps are rotten to mess with for the 5th time at night. If you live somewhere warm, lucky you, a onesie is all you need.

Babies grow fast. My baby didn’t even make it into her Newborn clothes and grew out of 0-3 month in weeks.  She’s 2 months and has been wearing 6 month clothing for a while. It’s not worth buying outfits! Stick to onesies and sleepers until you know more about your kiddo’s size. On that note – we grew out of diapers before we could use them all too. If you do have a baby shower don’t just ask for NB and size 1 diapers, get bigger sizes!

People are always getting rid of baby clothes on Craigslist or similar sites. Put your $100’s of dollars that you just saved on clothes you’ll never use towards diapers. Or wait until the clearance sales hit.

You can never have enough burping cloth blankets or nursing pads.  I use reusable nursing pads at home and disposable ones when traveling. Bake a huge batch of your favorite kind of healthy muffins at the end of your pregnancy and freeze them. You will be hungry at night during feeding it helps to have one or two muffins by your bedside. Get a huge water bottle or better yet a stainless steel water bottle (free of nasty plastic chemicals) and keep by your nightstand.

Run your finger around the Diaper ruffles around edge for a better seal. Use Vaseline on their bums, the poop doesn’t stick. (The nurses at the hospital told us.) Some people freaked out on me telling me that it’s a petroleum product. We never had diaper rash or any problems but use non-petroleum jelly if that’s your jam.)

Can’t burp baby? Lay the kid horizontal for a few minutes until she makes a clearing sound with her voice like an ahem. Instead of trying to burp her for 30 minutes, laying her down for 2 minutes got the burp up much quicker.

Different sucking – towards the end of nursing they do this fluttering with their mouths. I thought that they were tired but that’s where they get the most important milk the hind milk.

I prefer the washable nursing pads. I have a fair bit of leakage and find those absorb better and are comfier in my opinion. And it’s cost effective. I don’t put them in the dryer with dryer sheets (I’ve recently quit using dryer sheets and use those dryer balls – heh heh – now) and let them air dry since baby noses have a strong sense of smell.

Make noise from day one. In the womb I blended shakes, coffee grinders and vacuumed. That didn’t change when she was a newborn. My baby at two months can sleep through loud TV, vacuum, music and more. I was so happy one day I was vacuuming and she slept right through it. Get them used to things early on and it won’t be a big deal down the road.

I let Evelyn eat and sleep when she wants. We’re at two months and she’s getting into a great pattern. All babies are different though so any advice is out the window on this subject. She goes to bed around 11pm wakes up around 5am and sleeps until 9am. Her record for sleeping at night is 7.5 hours which is pretty phenomenal for her age. We let her find her natural rhythm. (I’m also lucky enough to not do the 9-5 gig.) I never understood why parents put their kids to bed so early if they wake up so early. I guess we will see what happens down the road. (Note: My husband as a baby went to bed late and slept late so she may just take after her Papa.)  My Mom pointed out we don’t drink a glass of water every two hours, we drink when we are thirsty.

I keep saying we lucked out but Mom’s and nurses tell me it has a lot to do with parents. I like to think we are pretty chill and loving. We had her 8 years after being married and in our early 30’s so I was definitely mentally ready for my first!

A partner in crime is extraordinarily essential (in my book). I have the best P.I.C. full of patience, love and an extra expert hand in changing diapers. Don’t try to do it all on your own. Give yourself a break once in a while.

The best advice is don’t listen to advice! I drove myself a bit sick over baby advice online, especially the baby schedule ideas. (And low and behold she’s getting her own which is a great one.) Everyone is different so what will work for one may not work for the next. It feels a bit scary at first but everything good and bad is a phase and you will get through it.  Good luck!

Things to Remember About Being Pregnant

Long story short – after 8 years of marriage, we finally came around to the prospect of creating a little blend of us. Needless to say everyone had opinions and suggestions for being pregnant. The most annoying truth I found is that EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT. They way the hormones pump through you from weight gain, sex drive and other issues. Even during the baby classes we took, every Mama, baby and delivery is different, we’re like little annoying snowflakes. (Annoying because there is no way to predict anything and I’m the kinda gal who likes to be prepared.) People are gonna give you the low down but here are things I want to remember that happened to me.

Pregnant Progression

DAMN THAT NAUSEA
Sure the first trimester my newest friend involved being of the porcelain persuasion. I remember hugging my husband one morning and his cologne was too strong – tossed my cookies. I was ironing a shirt with narrow stripes – got too dizzy and threw up. But right around the 2nd trimester, the mercy of the Gods decided to turn the extreme nausea tap off. Fist pump!

What helped >> NOT Saltine Crackers (I’m not a parrot), Ginger, Lemon & Honey Tea, Ginger Chews, DoTerra Lemon Essential Oil, coconut water.

EXERCISE IS YOUR NEW BEST FRIEND
Note: I am not a huge exercise buff. If I can do this, I feel like almost anyone can. (Please use common sense, talk to your doctor first and don’t take my word on anything, I am by zero means a professional on this stuff.) After I lost 5 lbs (normal when puking in the 1st trimester) I got into light walking 10-30 minutes, squats and swimming. Starting at 20 squats a day I worked my way up to about 60 or so. Swimming helped increase lung capacity, is an encouraged exercise for preggos and I so loved the floating part! I was quite active and flexible up until my 9th month. There is a sort of pride that happens when one is 8 months pregnant and can still tie their shoes and pick stuff up off the floor. All this will help with delivery too. Interesting article on squats vs. kegels. Make a little chart and track your weight too.

EVERYTHING IN MODERATION
Coffee? Depending on what your doc says no problem. I did two-ish or less a day.
Why over stuff your face with garbage when you know you need to be in the best possible “fighting shape” for delivery? I heard horror stories from my friends who gained 50-70 lbs. Don’t get me wrong there were times I had cookies and the darker side of the food spectrum, but I was also into juicing, salads and yummy healthy items too.

I was so scared the first trimester until I stumbled upon this book. Written by an economist, it explores the no no lists when pregnant. It calmed me down a ton! I wish this would have been my first book. Expecting Better by Emily Oster

GOT THE GLOW BUT IT’S STILL A PAIN
Yes, I will throw down the I got lucky card and thanks for the genes Ma. I was lucky enough to grab that pregnant glow though I think I can credit a bit of that to a balanced diet and some exercise. I had some ladies say they gained 60+ pounds and had acne real bad but then they admitted to doing nothing, and eating fast food and gallons of ice cream. As good as I felt after the 1st trimester, pregnancy is no picnic. Yes it’s an incredible, crazy, amazing, indescribable experience, but there are plenty of aches and growing pains that go with it. Back pain, heartburn, brain fog, ligament pain, headaches, not sleeping through the night. Things I want to remember in case my brain remembers back to nothing but rose color windows. Chiropractic and acupuncture helped get me through to the end.

THINK YOU’RE CLOSE TO YOUR HONEY? YOU’LL GET CLOSER
I dare not rant and rave about how incredibly awesome my honey is because I don’t want anyone to get too jealous. We’ve been besties for a while then got hitched and have remained incredibly close as each year passes. I didn’t think we could get closer or have more fun but this pregnancy has really done it. There’s been a lot of laughter and bonding between the two (three) of us. That is a little sweet spot I know will continue to grow.

DON’T BUY CLOTHES TOO SOON
Pick up some very basic basics. SERIOUS! 2-3 Gap maternity t-shirts, 2 long sleeved shirts and a pair of maternity pants or two. (Because what woman nowadays doesn’t have a ton of stretchy leggings already?) I bought too soon and still don’t fit into some items I bought. I could wear most of my normal clothes for over half the time. I figured I’d puff up like a marshmallow in the microwave but I didn’t. It’s hard to guess the growth on things. If you can, WAIT! Or borrow. My maternity clothes are the 1st layer and I tend to add a sweater or cardigan or un-buttoned shirt. Easy peasy. Don’t fall into the buy crap trap. And nursing bras! Buy them with thick straps. Those smaller straps that used to do are no good to you. As great as big boobs sound, you gotta support those gals.

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The end is near! 6 weeks to go. I’m sure this will be updated or there will be a part two of things to remember.