Besides being pretty quirky and unusual I am trying to cook cleaner and take microsecond naps in my new hammock when I'm not taking care of my two stellar tiny tots that are my daughters. I paint for fun, contemplate life a lot, laugh loudly, go on bike rides, and try to experience hygge. I Mom date, because we move a lot and I'm forced to finding the next "one" or "three". (No, I'm already married but come on we all need to find a mini tribe, humans are social animals.) I'm far from perfect, and am trying to emulate my optimistic husband over my Eeyore disposition. I'm working on being politer and kinder both to myself and others in this world
I am taking steps to become better at my carbon footprint, because let’s face it, we all are a little guilty of overdoing it in the plastic department. I’ve been leaning in the direction of reusable straws, bags, kitchenware. I have also gotten in the habit of always having collapsible tupperware in my purse when we eat out to use instead of the styrofoam to go box. I recently have had the time to realized how much waste is in our bathroom, namely shampoo and conditioner bottles. Everyone shampoos, so I started exploring what other options are out there for shampoo and hair products. I saw a few companies that did refills on bottles which sounded good but then I stumbled upon shampoo bars. The perfect zero waste shampoo product. It is literally a bar of soap but holds magic inside my dear friend.
For me the bar was set low in my head on this shampoo bar but I have wanted to try these for a while. I’m not the kind of person that just goes out there and buys the latest product. I sit and think and research on it. Well the day came and I found a LUSH store and I went in, had a chat with the very friendly, helpful salesperson and they helped me choose the proper shampoo bar for my hair type. I live in a humid climate and have straight, fine hair that gets greasy easily. I found a nice lemon option and also got a conditioning bar as well.
I had an incredible experience in the store itself and did not realize how cool this store I’ve vaguely heard about. The smells alone are worth going to explore. Now I have technically been living overseas for about four years so try not to judge too harshly if you can’t believe I’ve never used LUSH. And if you haven’t heard of LUSH then welcome to the wonderful world of happy hair products and more.
I figured it would wash my hair with this shampoo bar and it would be okay. Like I would be helping the environment but my hair would just turn out mediocre. Was I wrong! I did NOT expect magic from this shampoo bar. THIS SHAMPOO BAR IS PURE MAGIC. I’m pretty sure it has unicorn breath and angel wishes and gumdrop dreams mixed in. I lathered up the bar, rubbed the bar on my hair a few times and rinsed it out. Then used a conditioning bar. (I use the conditioning bar sometimes but don’t always need it.)
I can totally tell the difference between using regular shampoo and this shampoo bar. I have body and bounce and my hair is smooth and gorgeous. Somehow it looks like I put product in my hair and it holds almost like hairspray. This small shampoo bar somehow cleans my hair, leaves it feeling extra smooth and fresh and gives me the bounce and hold that I need. I have gone back to my old shampoo just to see if I could tell the difference. Maybe I was just having a weird magical hair day by accident but nope, it really is the shampoo bar. Time and time again I am just blown away by this shampoo bar. It retails at around $12 and is good for about 80 washes depending on how much hair you have, because obviously, pixie cut will last longer than Rapunzel hair. Also note, the employee said the dryer you keep the shampoo bar the longer it lasts. (If you leave it in the shower and water is constantly running over it, it’s gonna break down faster. ) I’m putting this down as a win for everyone.
I am also now hooked on LUSH. They are a responsible company with ethical buying, hand make their products and they take their commitment to protecting people, animals and the planet seriously. And that is a company we can all support more. Read more here about their policy.
YES YOU CAN MAKE BREAD! I recently watched a Netflix series called Cooked. One of the episodes was devoted to making bread. It was so inspiring I decided to find a bread recipe and give bread making a try. I scored a great find on Pinterest from ItsAlwaysAutumn by searching for the easiest bread recipe. I thought worst case scenario I was going to waste some high quality flour and yeast. Possibly have a great time getting messy with my 3 year old. Life isn’t Pinterest perfect and sometimes you fail or crash hard. I’ve had plenty of burnt, messy, terrible things turn out and I sometimes shed a tear or sometimes just move on to the next item.
Well, the best case scenario with this make your own bread happened, it was transformative. We all crunched into the outside buttery layer revealing a perfectly soft center. The bread had a very subtle tang like most homemade breads should. No corn syrup in sight either. My husband gently inquired of I could make 87 more loaves as soon as humanly possible. My 10 month old inhaled the homemade bread faster than my 3 year old. You don’t even need any butter or toppings on the bread when it is fresh out of the oven. This is the easiest bread recipe I have found. My friend came over the other day and we made it for dinner. She admitted she was a bread enthusiast and had tried over 20 recipes, some being pretty complicated. She also confessed that and none rivaled this delicious bread and asked if she could take some home to her twin girls. Score and win one for the easy to make team. Please note it DOES take TIME for the yeast to do it’s job and raise the roof on the bread. 8-12 hours minimum. I typically start a batch at night and let it sit until the next day and make it for breakfast or dinner.
You measure out the 4 simple ingredients and cover the bread dough and be on your way. (I try to avoid plastic since I use enough of it in our grocery products.) I would recommend to make a double batch in two separate bowls.
Tips, use a to towel OR I have these silicone lids that I use all the time. They create an airtight seal on any smooth-rimmed bowl, casserole, cup or glass to keep food and liquids fresh when storing. The heat-resistant, food-safe silicone also allows for quick cooking, steaming and reheating in the oven or microwave. If you use actual wheat flour, it will taste different.
EASIEST BREAD RECIPE IN THE WORLD
3 cups all purpose flour
1 tsp salt
1/2 tsp yeast
1.5 cups of warm water (not too scalding hot or it will be soupier and not cook right.)
In a bowl, stir dry ingredients together. Add warm to hot water last. It will be sticky and look a mess. That’s perfect! Cover with a towel or a plate or a reusable item. Leave on kitchen counter room temp 8-24 hours. Then preheat oven to 450 F. Sprinkle flour on surface and scoop out dough onto floured area. NO KNEADING required. Form into a ball, rolling around a bit in the flour and place it in your baking dish. LET REST 30 minutes before putting it in the oven. Slash “X” on top of bread, cover dish with foil for 30 minutes then uncover and bake 10-15 minutes. Cool before cutting. Enjoy the spoils!
This is a pretty long and detailed account of flying with a toddler for 19 HOURS. Many travel posts I have read tend to have a before and after, seem to look like a breeze, but tend to skip the dirty details. (Or maybe I’m just reading the wrong posts.) If it’s too much to read everything, just cruise to the headlines to the points that matter to you, or just check out the NOTES and TIPS part.
This post is to remind me about traveling once I have my second kid, forget all my cool tips and start panicking. . . again. This is also for the Mom who wants to travel, but everyone out there has her scared shitless to do it because of all the terrible stories she’s heard. I personally LIKE it when I see all the extras written out. I feel a lot more prepared for flying with a toddler. It’s kinda like a walk through cheat in a video game…sort of.
Even though this was going to be her 31st flight, I was still nervous about flying solo with a 22 month old. Especially since at 15 months she was a fairly holy terror flying when we moved from the U.S. to Malaysia. At 15 months my daughter Evie had zero interest in books, TV, sitting still or sleeping on the plane. All she wanted to do was move. At 22 months it was so much easier because of her interests and understanding.
SHOES NOTE: Her shoes fit her two days before the flight but ended up giving her blisters in the airport before we even boarded so they ended up being useless. Good thing I brought non slip socks.
PACKING
I’m a terrible packer. I over pack. I think of each scenario and always think, “What if”. Try to pump the brakes if you can. I over bought snacks that were never used and over packed on toys that were never seen.
Here’s what I packed.
The Winners.
KID’S DRAMAMINE My friend told me her doctor recommended Kid’s Dramamine which I never heard about. Please consult your doctor and do your due diligence when it comes to your kids and medicine. The last 19 hour flight we took in August, everything woke her up and it was a very long, very rough flight with a very cranky little girl that could never fall asleep. On our second flight the Dramamine gave her the help to get to sleep in a strange environment and stay asleep in the beginning. During our 10 hour flight she slept about 8 hours.
MODELING CLAY DO NOT USE PLAY DOUGH, it’s messier, smellier and harder to wash their hands. Get MODELING CLAY and seal it in a plastic bag because it will dry out. This was the perfect toy for take off and landing.
HEADPHONES Worth the investment. She had some cheaper ones that broke on me the week before takeoff and dang I’m glad I ponied up the cash for these. She thought she was the coolest and it let her get her jam on. I bought them in Malaysia and they were the only ones available. I’m sure you can find better ones but small headphones that fit their head is a must.
PUFF SNACKS Some sort of small time consuming snack helped us with landings and take offs and enabled her to sit still. Fruit leather bars and the Kind nut bars were also a favorite.
USB CORD for your phone or iPad. Just keep one charged while you are on the plane. Nothing is less fun when you are in a strange airport and you have no juice left in your phone.
MUFFINSSee recipe here. These are filling, healthy, and kids tend to get constipated on the plane (new environment, not drinking enough water or eating the healthiest) so these pumpkin apple muffins were great for both of us.
These aren’t winners but basics you shouldn’t forget — diapers, wipes, wallet, passport, cleaning wipes because the plane trays are one of the dirtiest items on the airplane. I’m okay with some germs but I’ve read too much about airplanes to go without them! Her favorite stuffed animal that she is used to sleeping with was a big hit as much as my husband said we should leave it behind. There is that comfort in the familiar while you are in a completely new world for a while. Oh, and a plastic bag for just in case (blow outs, spills, who knows).
Fails
STICKER BOOK OR ACTIVITY BOOK – while some would say stickers, even the reusable ones, are the best, they did not hold her attention for long. I’d pass.
CRAYONS, EGGS, CARDS, POM POMS, BEADS TO PUT ON A STRING – also tips from others but she just didn’t care. Coloring was a fail. Maybe she is just too young or it’s not her cup of tea right now?
SPOONS & SCOOPS– She usually loves these but could care less this time. You can always get a spoon or cup from the flight attendants. Another Pass
SWEETS – I actually packed these for me, being pregnant and all, but never ended up opening the jelly beans or Snickers. (I know, what a sin.)
TRAIL MIX– Nope, neither of us. I made a homemade mix and it just didn’t jam with either of us.
ABSOLUTE MUST iPad – I’m not going to preach no screen time for flying. There is a time and place for iPads and I’m pretty sure it’s on a long plane ride. We don’t do it in cars or get a lot of regular play time in, so don’t feel guilty for ever using it.
FAVORITE SHOWS purchased from iTunes. Because as much as I love a free app, sometimes you need some solid classics on the iPad.
She really enjoyed: Peppa Pig Sarah and Duck Finding Nemo Robin Hood – Disney version
FAVORITE GAMES TO PLAY as of this moment in time at 22 months, these were the apps she enjoyed the most. Some of these are free, some we paid for.
Mercer Mayer App I found a package of Mercer Mayer books that self turn and self read which she loved on the plane.
Dr. Seuss App has a 7 day free trial to test out all their books. Just make sure you download the ones you want before you don’t have Wi-Fi. We have the Green Eggs and Ham book on it’s own and she really enjoys that as well.
Peek-a-Zoo series have always been favorites sine she’s been 12 months.
Baby Bubbles is an easy app where you just pop bubbles.
Color Zoo and Princess are color Apps, you touch and it fills in a color with a touch of a finger. It’s a more basic color app for younger kiddos. She really loves both of these.
Okay, now for the actual account of the flight. First off don’t panic. You are in a situation where you are lucky enough to get to fly. As terrible as they can get it is always temporary. You will eventually one day get off that plane and feel freedom again. Kids throw fits sometimes because they are KIDS. They are learning and growing and becoming their own little person. This is an excellent learning situation and super stimulating for their brain. Even when they do pitch a fit, make sure you keep your cool. They are probably just thirsty or have low blood sugar or are tired or scared. These are all things as a parent you (mostly) have the power to help and control. Make it an adventure and try to explain as much as you can to them, even if you think they are too young to understand. They aren’t too young and they are soaking it all in. If someone doesn’t understand that, then they are still learning too.
With that said, when I was packing I had anxiety and felt sick to my stomach even though this is the 31st flight with my toddler. We currently live in Malaysia and we were flying from Kuala Lumpur to Tokoyo to Denver to Phoenix. Once I was packed, I felt fine. It really can be fun if you are in the right mental mind set. I’m very good at being anxious with everything but if you can mentally prep yourself a bit, it can make a big difference.
It’s very expensive to have a car in Kuala Lumpur and you don’t really need one to get around the city so we don’t have one. Being pregnant and with crazy traffic there, my very sweet husband wanted to rent a car, drive, park us, and help us check-in with all our luggage. This sounds pretty standard but it was a big deal to me. I was planning on getting an Uber and figuring it out somehow.
NOTE:We booked through United but our first flight was Nippon Air. When checking in I couldn’t find the sign anywhere because they are small and they ended up being under ANA. We also couldn’t book seats ahead of time on Nippon. With our two other United flights I didn’t have a problem choosing our seats but since it was a sister airline I did not have any power or control of where we sat on the first flight. Somehow we lucked out and got the bulkhead front row with extra room. The only downside being you can’t slide your bags in front of you.
Up at 4am there by 6am and ready to roll on our JetKids
NOTE: What is JetKids? A fold out travel bed with a little storage to spare. We packed a blanket, stuffed animal, diapers and a change of clothes for each of us in the JetKids suitcase. It rolls and is very easy to roll around the airport.
Japanese are very nice and polite. During a different Malaysian Air experience, their flight attendant argued with me that Evie had to sit on my lap at takeoff with a special seat belt. Here I actually asked and they didn’t care. During take off I grabbed an egg and the modeling clay which held her attention so she stayed in her seat long enough for us to get airborne. The first six hour flight was pretty freakin’ easy for all the nerves I had built up about it. In fact it felt too easy. There were snacks, TV and her nap involved. Except apparently with this airline and their regulations, JetKids are not allowed where we were sitting. So the first time we both finally fell asleep, I got poked awake by a flight attendant. I was told if I scooted up my sleeping child it was okay but she could not be laying on the JetKids. Then a second person came by right when I was asleep and said it couldn’t be used at all. So I ended up taking it apart. The third time I started getting angry by being poked awake (WHY couldn’t they do this all the first time and let us both sleep?) and I was told I have to put it in the overhead compartment. So bulkheads and sleeping kids items weren’t allowed apparently. DO YOUR RESEARCH for your airline because we didn’t have any. (During our United flights we had zero issues.)
We watched the iPad with her new headphones and some Sarah and Duck episodes kept her occupied for a while. We also watched Robin Hood…cartoon version. I’ve never been in the bulk head so didn’t even realize we had TV’s until I saw the gal next to me reach underneath her on her right.
We flew on a new 787 and if you see the green arrow in the window photo, the window lighting is controlled by buttons. In fact, just about everything is controlled by a button. No switch for your overhead light, or in the bathroom. All very techy. Now the food may be good in other cultures but I am so sick of rice and nothing they served on the plane tasted very good. I didn’t get Evie a meal. The roll and butter went over with her very nicely. Otherwise we just ate crumbly muffins.
Dad squished our homemade muffins before we even left the terminal. Let’s not forget to pack ’em in a tupperware next time!
FRESH AIR TIP: I always bring a small aerosol pump mister with a drop of peppermint essential oil because the air is so dry on the plane.
Narita Airport – Tokoyo
So we land with no problem. Narita Airport in Tokoyo is very clean and easy to navigate. We did not have to clear customs since we were just a connecting flight nor mess with re-checking luggage. They had smaller complimentary luggage carts (which seems to be the way everywhere except America). I ended up putting the JetKids on the bottom, the carry on bag on the upper part, and Evie on top of the carry on. Totally forgot about getting a photo. But all I had to do was push everything around and give my pregnant sciatica back a break.
Food is very Japanese in Japan (go figure). But I did manage to score a hot dog for both of us. There are not a lot of restaurants (I saw four) but we happened to find a very small 3 to 4 place food court. I can’t do rice or noodles, because I am so very sick of rice and noodles and we live in a Muslim country where hot dogs (pork) is rare. The funny thing is when we were eating, she saw everyone slurping away at their noodles and kept asking for noodles as she was inhaling her hot dog.
There are a lot of small kid area for kiddos to run around. The first one we found had a parents bathroom and a diaper changing area. The kid bathroom was cool. There was a regular sized toilet but on top of the toilet seat was a smaller toilet seat you could lower down and put your child on. She ended up going pee in the toilet (potty training a 22 month old) and we were both pretty happy about that. In fact, she ended up going in the toilet about half the time so we didn’t burn through diapers like I thought we would. I’ve had too many delayed and cancelled flights were I can’t not pack extra diapers.
The second play area was right near our gate which was also very easy to find. Some airports I find confusing and big and it was just so darn easy and clean here. The lounge chairs on the left photo had chargers and nearby was another kids’ area right near our gate.
SECOND FLIGHT – UNITED
So we boarded and settled and when I was booking out flight I splurged on our 10 hour flight segment and got us the Premium Economy upgrade. This flight was during our regular night time so the hope was to JetKid it up and let her pass out. This plan worked splendidly. The HUGE BONUS was no one sat next to us so we had all three seats to ourselves. It wasn’t a very full flight and I did the aisle, window trick (book your seat on the aisle and window and leave the middle open. Less people are prone to book a middle eat if they can help it and if the flight isn’t full, you have a higher chance of having an empty seat in between.) I also think because we were Premium Economy that upped our chances of an empty middle seat between us.
GOD BLESS UNITED’S FOOD. There was a pasta dish (sorry I did NOT take a photo because we were too busy eating.) I believe it was pesto something that Evie inhaled and ate the entire thing, noodles, side dish and bun with butter. Water was plentiful, the flight staff was super warm and friendly (and American) and we even got vanilla ice cream for desert. It was probably standard airplane food but after the strange flavors we’ve grown accustom to, this tasted quite good. After take off and eating, which was about 2 hours in, I gave her the Kid’s Dramamine.
After I gave it to her (which I tested before the flight at home and she handled it fine…it just made her drowsy) she started getting squirmy. I finally lost a bit of patience and held her for a while. She tried to fight out of a cradle position but you could see she was super tired. You know what calmed her? The old bird trick. I put my scarf over JUST her eyes to cover the light. It really calmed her down. She quit squirming after that, let me hold her, zonked out, and was out for the rest of the flight. She woke up when the plane landed. The JetKids was good but she has turned into a restless sleeper lately so she ended up half rolling off with me watching and catching her. After the 8th time this happened, I ended up folding up the whole thing and setting her up with a pile of blankets on the floor, leaving me the chance to lay down across all three seats. This laying down ended up being impossible for me because I have a pinched nerve from being pregnant and was just too uncomfortable. Nevertheless it was the best possible situation we could have on an airplane. It was just a long, long flight.
JETKIDS NOTE: Would I fly with a toddler and take the JetKids again? Yes it was easy to drag with it’s strap and 360 wheels and I ended up being able to store quite a bit in it; diapers, change of clothes for each of us, blanket, stuffed animal and most importantly my MacBook Pro for work. Computers and babies together can be heavy so it was really nice to just drag it around. And it was padded by the diapers and blankets. I can’t speak of the other awesome flight beds out there but I’m not sure how easy they are to transport, especially without a stroller. I’ve found over in Asia sometimes when you gate check your stroller they end up checking it to baggage claim and not at the airplane. Not sure if we’ve missed a few things in translation but it has happened to us twice with a stroller.
WE FINALLY LAND IN DENVER – ONE STOP TO GO
We did go through customs in Denver which was a very short line. We used the Global Entry line and both lines were about the same wait, 5 minutes or so. We did have to pick up our luggage and re-check it. Since we checked a car seat, it is classified as oversized. EVERYTHING from oversized comes out LAST. So you have to be patient and make sure you use the bathroom beforehand if you have to. Evie was starting to lose her patience which is understandable. Once we got our bags and used the free luggage carts nearby, we went through some guard area and then dropped off our bags. Then we went through long security line and got stopped because we had a half full water bottle and I totally forgot to take my computer out of the JetKids.
SKIPPING THE LINE NOTE: Global Entry is a U.S. Customs and Border Protection (CBP) program that allows expedited clearance for pre-approved, low-risk travelers upon arrival in the United States. It took a long time to get an interview but you pay online and once you get approved they do a short interview. The main background check is online and before the interview. Pretty painless and worth it if you travel a lot.
We caught the tram to the B Gates and the first thing we saw was so very, very American, Chick-Fil-A! And we enjoyed every bite before our flight. The last flight was a blur. It was 2 hours long. We watched Mister Rogers Neighborhood and she dozed towards the end in my lap. A short, sweet flight but it seemed to take forever.
KUL > NRT > DEN > PHX and 9,721 miles later
We landed, we stretched, we strolled and Grandma and Grandpa met us at baggage claim. WE DID IT! I flew with a toddler literally half way around the world by myself. And “literally” is used correctly for once. Overall the whole trip was not that bad. Next time I’d be more aware of food availability, try to get us both to drink water more and worry less. The airports we went through were very easy, which isn’t always the case. The iPad and snacks were a huge factor in keeping her still in her seat. I’m not too scared to fly with her anywhere after this. The older they get, the easier it gets flying with a kid. (Well, when they are newbies it’s super easy because all they do is eat and sleep. From 10 months to 17 months seemed to be our tricky window.) We will see when #2 comes along and I’ve got two kiddos to juggle. But that will be another post for down the road. Don’t ever be afraid to try. The more you do the easier everything becomes.
Cheers and safe travels everyone!
PSSST… THE AFTERMATH
Sleeping schedule and switching our days and nights
It is sucky adjusting to a new time zone but when you are flipping days and nights it can feel like it may never end. For us it took 4-5 days. This one post I read said you will adjust adding 1 hour per time zone change or something which I found to be not true. You just need a few days, some patience and a fair bit of coffee.
I tried to keep with our regularly scheduled events (lunch, naptime, bedtime etc.) on the new time zone immediately. We stayed awake the rest of the afternoon / evening until bedtime. The first two days I ended up bringing her to my bed. We would have a snack, watch a little show then try to go back to sleep. It took me 1-3 hours to fall back asleep and by the time I did, she was up again. She was thirsty (rightfully so since we moved from super humid to super dry) and wanted a snack (it was lunch time). Husband is coming out to visit us later due to that pesky work thing so I was on my own. Thank goodness Grandparents wake up early! The first handful of nights are the worst but it’s all short term and for us, this was totally worth it!
Here is a vey real account of what happened. These are texts that I sent to my husband.
Day 1 of sleep:
🇺🇸XXXX
1 out of 5 American Flags
Evie woke up bawling 2 hours in. She had a hang nail on her big toe. Clipped it, gave her Tylenol and had her laying on me and she still wouldn’t stop crying. Believe “overtired” is an under exaggeration. Hero Grandma came in and took her. I am 97% sure she is sleeping with Grandma. But I’m hearing phantom Evie cries so 3% sure she is roaming the halls like a ghost.
I just woke up starving and ate a freakin’ turkey pinwheel from Sam’s Club. Remember those? And blackberries. And blueberries. OH! And they have flipping cottage cheese. I bet it didn’t even cost 45 Rinngit.
(The fridge excursion has confirmed that Evelyn is not roaming the halls.)
My attempt to go back to sleep for the fifth time in 3.5 hours. Later it was confirmed that baby fell straight asleep with Grandma.
Day 2 of sleep: 🤔
🇺🇸 🇺🇸 X X X
2 out of 5 American flags.
Evie slept 9-12:30 and 2:30am to 8pm. Not too bad except she didn’t want to go back to her crib and she had to neck hug me or hold my hand for a good while. She also snores like a tiny dragon for a while making it hard for me to fall asleep. She’s adjusting better. If I wasn’t pregnant I could take a shot of NyQuil or whiskey or both! (note: I hate NyQuil and whiskey)
Day 3 of sleep:
🇺🇸 🇺🇸 🇺🇸 X X
3 out of 5 American Flags
I went to bed at 10pm and started falling asleep around 11:00pm which is when she woke up. After some good solid “holding her Mama” baby time and some natural cough medicine she went down. That damn Malaysian cough from the pollution just won’t quit. Next time she gets honey. If I hold her for a while, I can get her back in her crib, giving me more time to stare at the ceiling in peace. That little angel is such a bed hog! My sciatica was keeping me up so I fell asleep around 12:30, dozed in and out but think I got some solid 4-5 hours until 6:30am.
Day 4 of sleep:
🇺🇸 🇺🇸 🇺🇸 🇺🇸 X
4 out of 5 American Flags
In the words of Grandma – HUZZAH! Got my first 7 hours and I’m looking forward to nap time today as well. She’s adjusting way better than I am but I think we’re gonna make it, babe!
I will work on updating this, I know it needs more but it’s a good reference start for newbies who have just moved here. I wish I knew these things when we moved.
KLCC is Kuala Lumpur Convention Center or “downtown” but everyone says KLCC
Cars WS Car Rental – There areCheaper place to go Grab Car
Don’t use taxi may get ripped off and some don’t have air conditioning
I prefer Uber (we don’t have a car)
Free transit on the purple buses
LRT (metro) Light Rail Transit
Furniture Store Ikea is the cheapest and they deliver Other places I was told Revewmart
One Stop Buy & Sell
Viva homest
Hook Choon has cheap dishes and better meat (someone said their minced meat or “ground beef” is better there.)
Places to Order Online Lazada – sort of like Amazon
Some things in Amazon will ship but you have to sort of price shop
Borderlinx.com will ship to you, it’s the middle man to get things you can’t
Chemistdirect.uk
Amazon.co.uk
Grocery Store Honest Bee – online delivery, my preferred choice
Happy Fresh or Tesco will deliver you can shop online
Jaya in the Intermark – KLCC- is the better grocery store though each one you have to kind of pick and choose of the best (one may have better fruit or meat or specialty items)
Ben’s is in Mont Kiara but has the best selection of international food items
Local markets are the cheapest but harder to navigate and get to – worth trying if you can
VPN Miss your old TV shows or want Pandora? Tunnel Bear can help.
Parks Tama Tasik Titiwangasa Park
Bird Park
KLCC Park
Restaurants Fuego
Changkat has Pinchos which is a tapas Everyone talks about how great the food is but I have not found it that way. There aren’t many restaurants that really pop out in my head. It’s more trial and error and a lot of fails. Know that the service is slooooow and if you want something it’s best to speak up and ask or you may be waiting a long time.
Intermark Little Gym – you can free trial and it’s the best place for kid growth / play and development
Child Friendly Cafes These places have toys or play areas to free roam while you get a break and can eat in peace. There are so many available. Antipodean
Menara Tan & Tan on Tun Razak
Green Tomato Café in Ampany
Wicked Pancake Parlour in Damansara
Day Cares Primrose Hill – more laid back can drop your kid of a day a week / more flexible other places make you pay upfront and have to stay a full week, from what I hear.
Children’s House
Play Area Starlight Kids
Haze / Pollution
Plantations in Indonesia are burned (they burn them off so they can plant next year). The smoke travels over by Malaysia and surrounding areas and creates this nasty haze. It’s very very unhealthy. So bad where you need to stay inside some days and schools are cancelled. Raining helps dissipate this issue but don’t get caught in that rain, you don’t want that on your skin. Local air readings are misleading since they use a 10 ppm ratio and most other countries use 2.5 ppm. Sometimes it can stick around for months. Air purifiers and plants can help, just do your research and be prepared. Pack a few extra umbrellas and have them to and from work when needed.
My stories and adventures can’t be written if I don’t sit down and do it! I have a long list I’ve been putting off and this quote inspired me to just start.
Done is better than perfect.
So I’m currently living in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia and my bestie & partner in crime Lo and I have recently discovered this thing called Batik. Lo has lived here two years and can’t believe she’s never seen this on the many Facebook Expat Group to-do lists or Expat Magazines “must see”! Batik has been gently lurking in the shadows waiting for us to find and get our paint on.
WHAT IS BATIK? Batik is over in Central Asia and India side of the world and is the art of decorating on cloth. It has been practiced for 100’s of years. You hand draw, hand pour hot wax from these crazy little pipes and then paint the cloth using fabric dye. Stencils and stamps can be used nowadays to speed the process. The more water you use with your paint the lighter the color you get.
Do you like doing crafts but don’t feel like you can be an artist? -WRONG- You can with Batik. Especially at Ainna Artwork at Central Market near Chinatown in KLCC. They have options as little as 20 RM (or $4.50 USD) to choose from. This was our first attempt and how we got hooked. This is the first place to start. It’s small, you can learn how the paint works and it’s cheap and fast. Artwork is already hand drawn and the wax is drawn so all you have to do is dip your brush water down the saturated dye and get your paint on. You can work on blending different colors or just enjoy the therapeutic zen zone you find yourself in. It’s almost like paint by number because the wax prevents your paint from bleeding into the next section.
We had so much fun we ended up placing an order to paint a bigger art piece. You have to put 50 RM as down payment and wait a few days for them to draw and wax.
So while we were waiting for our creation to be drawn Lo researched and found this place called Jadi Batik. It’s warehouse big and one of the larger batik centers in Kulala Lumpur. Lot’s of tourist buses come here. If you really want to buy higher quality clothing, fabric, or silks go here. Someone told me they are overpriced but I’ve purchased clothing and items at the smaller booths in various places and different areas and the quality is so much better and will last so much longer. I’ve had stuff that has ripped after one wear. Quality over quantity will win every time. Don’t have time to paint? Just go buy a beautiful silk scarf or an apron or robe. (I personally love things I can use so bought an apron.)
So we were under the impression (since it worked that way at the other art place) you just pick an already drawn and waxed creation and just paint. NOT SO. You have to DO IT ALL. Which seemed really intimidating at first but when you are finished it is such a rewarding feeling. Now I have a bit more experience in art than Lauren, but she is fearless and got some help with the pros. Lo went big and did a silk scarf, and I so regret choosing the smaller silk handkerchief. “Go BIG or go home Sarah!” She always tells me. One day I will listen to her.
So you have to wait a day and they bake or do their magic to melt the wax off and seal the paint so it doesn’t bleed. The next day we got to pick up our creations.
Now I’m flying back to America for a couple of months so this last week has been party week for me. Some people go to bars, while others paint. Last up we got the call that our seaside shacks were finished being drawn and waxed. Feeling like pros we conquered our creations around 2 hours.
Yes on the easier side of things it is glorified paint by number, but it is OH SO FUN PEOPLE. Whether you are drawing from scratch or getting a brain break from all those worries give Batik a try.
Are you constantly looking up recipies on WTF to make for dinner because you are tired and have no idea what you did last week?
Okay this is going to take a little bit of legwork but I promise you it will be worth it. Take a handful of minutes each night (skip Facebook for 5 minutes tonight and tomorrow) and write down in your Phone notes section all the meals you love and make for your family.
Once you have enough bust out some notecards and write down the name of the dish along with the ingredients. Bonus if you add photos. Photos take longer and may be hard to manipulate but we are very visual creatures so if you see a photo chances are you are going to get more excited about it.
Now you have 20-30 dishes give or take however many if good for you and put them in a little envelope somewhere. I took the next step because I’m an organize freak when I have the time and split it into 1) breakfast / lunch 2) main dishes 3) sides and sweets
BAM! High five. Look at your Miss Organized for Food. Take the guesswork out and put your notes front and center. Magnets (or tape) and a white board if you feel fancy.
“Whatever relationships you have attracted in your life at this moment, are precisely the ones you need in your life at this moment. There is a hidden meaning behind all events, and this hidden meaning is serving your own evolution.” Deepak Chopra
I tend to skim over what people write in the beginning of recipes, they get soooo loooong….so here is a haiku instead.
I always look for
this recipe from my Mom
Most scrumdiddlyumptious
2 ¼ cups all purpose flour
2 tsp. cinnamon (you can never add too much in my opinion I add an extra 1/2 tsp.)
½ tsp ginger
¼ tsp nutmeg
¼ tsp cloves
—if you prefer, use 2 tsp pumpkin pie spice—
1 ½ tsp baking soda
1 ¼ tsp salt
¼ tsp baking powder
1 large (2 small) apple – peeled, cored, diced ~ 1 2/3 cups
1/3 cup raisins (I use golden – they bake up softer)
½ – 1 cup coarsely chopped pecans (or walnuts)
½ cup butter (1 stick softened at room temperature)
1 ½ cups light brown sugar
3 eggs
1 ½ cups pumpkin
1/3 cup milk
For Muffins Preheat at 375º for 15 minutes – spray with cooking spray For a Bread Loaf Preheat at 350º Bake 1 hour and 20 minutes
or until a toothpick inserted into the center comes out clean.
In a small bowl, combine flour, spices, baking soda, salt, and powder.
In another small bowl combine the chopped apple and raisins; toss with 2 Tbsp. of the flour mixture. (This helps the fruit to stay suspended in the loaf and not just sink to the bottom.)
–On medium speed, beat butter and brown sugar until combined. On medium-low, beat in eggs and pumpkin until blended. The mixture will look curdled.)
–On low, alternately beat in the flour blend with the milk until all are blended. Stir in the apple/raisin mixture and pecans. Transfer the thick batter to the pan or muffin tins. Cool on a rack for 10 minutes in the pan. Slip the muffins or bread out and let it cool some more on the rack. You can drizzle a powder sugar/milk icing on if you like it sweeter, but I like it plain.
Your Saying – computer with a cool font you like (We love Hobbits)
Pencil (a softer lead if you can) and a Pen
Paint Markers
I am a fantasy nerd and helped my Mom create the Second Breakfast idea for her kitchen..
STEP 1: Measure out your board and print out the correct sizing you need from your computer. (Word may work but I used an art program called Illustrator.)
STEP 2: Rub your pencil on the back of the print out. Then TAPE the paper down and trace the front with some fairly good pressure with a pen. This will create the letter outline for you to trace with the paint. (I forgot this on the first word and ended up having to redo it. You are welcome that I made that mistake so you don’t have to.) The photo has the pencil tracings but it is really hard to see. 😦
This create the stencil so you look like a pro.
STEP 3: To finish up the stencil, whip out the paint marker. Do a few test drives on a random piece of paper so you are comfortable with the flow. Note: it takes a while for the paint to come out so shake, shake, shake it and be patient.
Step 4: Trace the outlines, fill in, chose a different color if that is your jam and enjoy your beautiful piece of art.
Now time to have Breakfast, Second Breakfast, Elevenses, Luncheon, Afternoon Tea, Dinner, or Supper!
I dare you to make these. Please. Everyone is on a health kick these days but the taste component seems to fall flat. I rediscovered these visiting my Mom. She used to make these for me when I was a kid. I didn’t have time for a gourmet photo, my 9 month old was too busy gobbling them up and I was busy helping her. They are great cold as well.
Into the whole baby lead weaning deal? These pancakes are great to add to your growing list of “holy crap my baby loves this” list. Usually my kiddo does NOT take food from me, but she was so excited she wouldn’t hold the pancake (see photo for proof.) It has such a light and fluffy texture and has that extra hit of protein you wouldn’t expect from a pancake with the eggs and cottage cheese.
The Best & Healthiest 3 Ingredient Pancake Recipe
3 Eggs
1/2 carton of cottage cheese (so about a cup)
3 tablespoons of flour
Additionally you could add a splash of vanilla and a squeeze of lemon or cinnamon or top with berries.
Mix well, fry in pan or griddle with butter or whatever sort of butter substitute that blows your skirt up.
So my kiddo is currently 9 months and she previously just hit her 18th flight, booking over 30,000 miles. Now unfortunately not all kids are built the same but here is my experience with a baby.
I was pretty terrified on our first flight but wanted to let you know it’s not as deadly or terrible as everyone emphasizes. First off, this is a temporary state, so even if you have a bad flight, and bad stuff does happens, it will be over soon. It may feel like forever but it won’t last.
Okay, let’s see if I can summarize in bullet points because we all have nano second attention spans these days.
YOU CAN NEVER PACK ENOUGH DIAPERS
Now unless you have a direct flight and the weather is fabulous then maybe you can pass on this tip, but with canceled and delayed flights you NEVER want to be in a situation where you are staring at your last diaper in your bag. Pack more than you think, then pack a few more.
YOU CAN’T OVER PACK
I lug a full diaper bag and have my Boppy zipped in its plastic holder as a second carry on (which I shove extra diapers and blankets in with.) Then she goes in her stroller and we gate check the stroller. Isn’t all this manipulating a pain though? Not really. You have your arsenal with you for just-in-case incidents. Everything fits and I can carry everything easily. She sits in her stroller and the bags loop on the stroller. You will all be happier and more comfortable knowing it’s there if you need it. Trust. Me.
Why a Boppy? Can’t you just hold her? When you hold a sleeping child for 1-3 hours while she is snoozing, your body parts will fall asleep (arms, legs, fingers). The Boppy is like a little traveling/sleeping bed which allows both of you to chill more comfortably. Evie fell asleep once for 4 hours. The Boppy helped save my sanity and made both of us more comfortable. Other Mamas have told me that they just use the neck pillows but being in the 100th percentile for her size, that isn’t going to happen for us.
CHECKING ITEMS – WHAT FLYS FREE
Baby paraphernalia flies free. Stroller, Baby Car Seat, Baby Car Seat Base. You can check the carseat and car base *TIP (with most infant carseats you don’t need a base, you can just use a seat buckle to secure the carseat when traveling). These baby items don’t count as any of your checked bags.
CHANGING BABY ON AIRPLANE
Most airplanes actually have folding tables in the bathrooms. (Which I was made to believe by other people and online blogs that they don’t exist.) They are typically in the back of the plane but sometimes they will have the fold down tables in the front bathrooms as well. I’ve even changed her on our seat (with a diaper changing pad under her and my husband next to me. This was when she was about 3 months old during a 5 hour flight, sometimes you just don’t want to get up for the 7th time to change a wet diaper.
DURING THE FLIGHT
Sorry, bottle Mama’s, I’m not sure how to help because I didn’t have that experience. I support anyones decision on how they feed their baby, but I happened to go the nursing route. I LOVED it because for the first 7 months before she was truly mobile there wasn’t anything that a boob in the mouth couldn’t fix. Tired? Hungry? Need Comfort? Have a boob, fall asleep for a while. Boom. I always thought all kids had an issue with altitude but Evie never did. So there is hope for you yet. I always thought she would be a terror on each flight according to what others told me, but guess what? She’s good on the plane! She loves looking at people and making new friends.
FLIGHT ATTENDANTS
They are nice! They want to help you. It’s true.
WHAT’S IN THE BAG?
I always dress Evie in zipper PJ’s. Bring one or two backup depending on how messy your baby gets. It’s easy to change and her feet don’t get dirty. It also keeps her warm when sleeping.
It used to be a lot less but since she’s older this is what we currently roll with. I have found that toys don’ t really work. It’s the non-toys that do it. Since we do baby led weaning she’s a bit more into spoons and straws. Evie LOVES gnawing on a straw. LOVES IT.
Diapers, wipes (get the kind that can double as hand wipes and wipe your area down), PJ’s as an easy change of clothes, changing pad, teething toys, Baby Tylenol (never go on a plane without it), snacks, small water cup, back up bottle with some of Mom’s milk, a cardboard book to read, or chew on. Water bottle for you and scarf for you that can double as a blanket for baby.
Oh, yes, then you have your wallet, water bottle, phone, phone charger, earbuds (for incase she falls asleep) passports, documents
SNACKS
String cheese can last a while, chopped up oranges in a tupperware, blueberries, rice cake type snacks for something more to do than eat, those squeeze fruit/veggie bags are fantastic for traveling. She also loves hummus and most planes serve that with pretzels. I use the pretzel as a “spoon” and she’s eaten over half at times. We’ve packed fresh made pizza crust, since it takes a while to gnaw on and helps her gums when she teethes.
Evie likes ice from my complimentary drink and plays around with the cup as well.
Well, if I can think of anything else down the road I’m sure I’ll add it. What works for you?
I have recently found helpful blogs from other expats and decided to create a St. John’s, Newfoundland overview for future Americans to help give them a better overview of what you are coming into and what to expect. I am writing from my past experience and point of view and do not mean to offend anyone, but an honest opinion on my side is coming.
My husband moves every couple of years due to his job (it happens to many of us I know). We all know there are ups and downs in moving but I’d like to pass along my experience to make living up here more fun and finding fun a little easier to do, as well as give you feedback on what you are getting into.
St. John’s is a beautiful old town, but you’ve probably never heard of it. It is heavier on the Irish charm than the Canadian – accents, pubs, music etc. It’s right on the Atlantic Ocean and is considered one of the top eleven most colorful cities in the world. It also boasts of being the oldest city in North America. It’s breathtakingly beautiful and in the smack middle of nowhere. I used to think Kansas or Wyoming was in the middle of nowhere until I moved 800 miles ish north of Maine on an island. It’s all on your perspective and experience. It is definitely quirky and if you can brave the winters and have a bit of an adventuring spirit and curiosity, you’ll be just fine.
VIEWS
The views are breathtaking and we’ve heard a lot that “This here is God’s Country” from many locals. That’s something I can’t really argue if by God’s Country you mean an unending view of water, hills, forests, waterfalls, light houses, ocean, lakes, and a natural beauty that you don’t often see in other places. Being able to hike along a cliff overlooking the Atlantic is something spectacular. If you are a lover of the outdoors you are in for a spectacular treat. Summer is short, so get out while you can.
THE PEOPLE
There is an overall friendliness to this island. Checkout clerks will call you “love” and strangers are perfectly comfortable with striking up a conversation or asking if you need help. (An older gent was walking one day asked me if I wanted help shoveling my driveway in the winter.) Though I have found everyone to be quite pleasant, it was harder to me to make friends due to a feeling of everyone had their “group” they were used to. Which is understandable. Don’t give up! It does take a while to meet friends – tips on how to is yet to come. Their sayings are great. Check out Newfinese here.
FOOD
You are moving to Canada on an island up north so expect everything to be more expensive. Certain items will not be available over winter as well (mainly in the fruit and vegetable area.) I was floored in September when cherries were $9.00 lb and lobster was $7.00 lb. To add salt on the wound there is a 13% tax on everything. Winters can miss certain foods and a lot of items can be moldy or rotten in the rougher months. It. Is. Pricey.
SUPERMARKETS
There are of plenty of grocery stores here. Sobeys & Dominion are the main contenders. In my opinion, Dominion is a bit better and cheaper. I found my favorite place for produce to by Costco. The best Dominion location is across from Costco, they tend to have more sales. A few times they have “no tax” weekend (and at 13% sales tax that was a bargain.) There are two great farmer’s markets that have the freshest produce at solid local prices. Ask a local, they are more than happy to tell you where to go.
HOMES
Garages are a rarity and many downtown are 50+ years old. There has been a boom since the oil industry has brought it back to life. (There was an over fishing crash and shut down in the 90’s.) New homes and new apartment complexes are rampant, so there may be an easier time of finding a rental if that is what you are looking for. There is no gas on the island (no forced heating) you will see mainly electrical base board heaters. Even if you do find a home outside of downtown don’t expect to get more than a one car garage.
MAIL
The postman won’t pick up your outgoing mail. You have to drop it off at the “Post”.
DOWNTOWN
George Street is the famous street here that is all bars (no cars are allowed to drive on this street.) It’s more of a college crowd and overpriced, but most things are overpriced in my view. $8 for a beer or the shots are measured out exactly, drinks are extremely weak. I’d avoid it and go elsewhere downtown. There is a plethora of local Irish music and live bands everywhere. There are art galleries to browse and small local shops good for window shopping. The charm is thick since it’s the oldest city in North America, definitely not cookie cutter!
RESTAURANTS
Restaurants and pubs I’d recommend to check out:
Gypsy Tea Room
Basho (sushi)
Grapevine (bar)
By the Beach on Portugal Cove has the best fish & chips
Jack Astors & Kelseys are chains and kid friendly I never found the food to be all that great anywhere unless you pay a high amount downtown
SHOPPING / SHIPPING You guessed it, limited and expensive. Most of my favorite U.S. sites won’t ship up by us.
Savvy For Me 